I have some background in my previous post so Im not going to go into too much detail now.
Im 30 and he’s 37, together almost 3 years and living together for 2 years now.
I do the appointments on our cars, maintenance, yardwork, cleaning, laundry, mopping, hoovering, cooking, groceries and overall planning of our lives and what we need and what needs to be done. I also pay all the bills and handle finances, though we contribute 50-50 financially.
He occansionally (once a month) cooks one meal, sometimes empties the dishwasher.
We just recently had yet another discussion of the housework and I asked him to take on more of it, he said of course. In the past days he started doing even less. I was hoovering, cleaning, making dinner and all that while he was watching tv or playing on the computer. This happens alot. He will peel the potatoes or take carpets outside if I ask him, but nothing more
So I went on strike. I have been sitting in our bedroom just relaxing. He was supposed to handle our car’s maintenance appointment, so he came to me and said ”should I call them now and get the appointment?” I said ”however you want to”
He said ”if i get the appointment now, you will have to pick me up”
I said ”okay, let me know then”
He got mad and left.
Couple of days before my strike (this is what kind of broke the camels back) I asked him to make me a shopping list before I left. He sat with his phone and kept asking me ”what do we need”
I kept saying ”i dont know, maybe check”
He kept constantly asking ”what else?”
And I told him to stop using my brain for this. So in the end he only added 5-6 items on the list, most of them were for himself (snacks)
Im so over and done with this bullshit of handling not only my life, but my business and also his life. He takes 0 responsibility for anything and now has the audacity to get angry at me?
Im so pissed right now. Also our house looks disgusting now after just 2 days of striking.
TL;DR : Partner is now mad at me for going on strike as I do 99% of the chores inside and outside of our home including mental load.
UPDATE;
He came home, the kitchen being a mess, trash overflowing and just general untidyness. He went to take a nap instead.
He is asking me what’s wrong and why am I acting the way I am. Im honestly just done with explaining the most obvious shit to him over and over again. He doesn’t seem to get it? This house looks like a pigsty right now and he doesnt lift a finger to do anything about it, but has the audacity to ask me ”what’s wrong?”
What the hell man. What is wrong with this person honestly?
He wont clean, won’t take responsibility for anything and wont even fuck me. I dont know what I am, i just feel like a sugarmama or something.
