This has been messing with my head for a week and I need to get it out
My husband went to his best friend’s bachelor party about two months ago. It was out of town, guys-only weekend type deal. I knew they’d be drinking and there’d probably be women involved. He told me it was just strippers and I didn’t love that but I let it go. We’ve been married four years and I’ve never had a reason not to trust him
Last week this woman shows up at my work. Not even at our house, my work. She asks if I’m married to him and then tells me she’s pregnant and thinks the baby is his. Said she met him at a party that weekend. Said he was drunk and they hooked up. She said she tried reaching him but he ignored her so she found me
She wasn’t yelling or crazy or anything. Just calm. Like she’d made peace with whatever happened. She told me she’s not looking for anything from me or him yet. Just wants to make sure he knows and asked if he’d be willing to take a test later on
I didn’t even know what to say. I just stared at her. She gave me her number and left
That night I confronted him and he denied everything. Said he blacked out that night but swears nothing like that happened. Said the guys hired dancers and there was some touching but he didn’t sleep with anyone. He swears it’s not true. But if he blacked out how would he even know
I told him he’s going to take the test when the time comes. He agreed but he’s been acting like I betrayed him for even considering it could be true. Like I’m the one doing something wrong
My friends are split. Some think the whole thing sounds shady and she’s probably just trying to pin it on someone. Others say if she went to me instead of blowing it up on social or acting wild maybe she’s telling the truth
I’m trying to keep my head on straight but I feel like I’m losing it
Would I be the asshole for not standing by him right now when he says he didn’t do it
I don’t know who to believe anymore