I (30F) have been dating my boyfriend (34M) for about a year. He has a 6-year-old daughter from a previous relationship who stays with him every other weekend. I’ve met her a few times, she’s sweet but I wouldn’t say we’re super close yet.
My boyfriend and I planned a week-long trip to Mexico this fall. We’ve both been working nonstop, and this was supposed to be an adults-only, relaxing vacation. Beach, cocktails, sleeping in the works.
But a couple weeks ago, he mentioned he was thinking about asking his ex if he could take his daughter with us, so “she could experience something new” and “we could all bond.” I thought he was joking.
I told him I wasn’t comfortable turning what we agreed would be a couple’s trip into a co-parenting trial run. We’re not married, I’m not her stepmom, and I don’t feel ready for that dynamic on my first real vacation in years.
He said it’s hurtful that I wouldn’t be excited to include someone so important to him and accused me of not being “serious about the relationship.”
Now I’m questioning everything. I love him, but I don’t think wanting a kid-free trip makes me a bad person.
AITA?